We all have them. How we deal with them is an individual matter. Personally, I agree with Frank!
Yes, I’ve definitely had a few, but always did things my own way, for better or for worse. When you get to be my age, (fast approaching 61), you sometimes think about “what might have been”. On the other hand, our past experiences mould us into the people we are today. Still, if only we knew then what we know now…
My biggest regret is wasting two years chasing after a replacement for the corporate position I was “downsized” from in 1992. (Their term; just a nicer way to say “fired”.) It was the most frustrating period of my life!
I was either overqualified, underqualified overeducated, undereducated or the wrong gender! Of course, one cannot prove such allegations, but, female managers were scarce in the manufacturing sector, where my 16+ years of experience lay. One asshole even had the nerve to ask me if I was willing to get my hands dirty! In my previous job as parts department/inventory control manager, a good amount of time was spent in the plant, doing that very thing. Ha! Should’ve worn my shop coat and safety shoes to the interview.
Finally, in self-defence, I started a home-based business, which is still active today. Why, oh why didn’t I do that in the beginning??! Shortly after leaving the corporate rat race, the realization hit me that my true personality had been stifled all those years. I had become a burnt out workaholic. Under no circumstances would I ever return to that treadmill!
Another big regret goes back over 40 years. As a young adult, I tried to establish a writing career. It had been my dream since childhood, but, the constant rejections were wearing me down and I gave it up. Earning a living became more important and life’s difficulties stifled my creativity.
Thanks to the internet and the blogosphere, the muse has made a triumphant return! They say, “it’s never too late” and here’s the great thing about writing: Age doesn’t matter, as long as your mind is still functioning. That can’t be said for most other professions.
– Neglecting my teeth and gums as a young (and foolish) adult. Paying for it now with quarterly torture sessions at the periodontist, (not to mention gum surgery, twice). Smoking for 37+ years exacerbated the problem and I regret doing that, too. Young’uns take heed!
– Accepting a job offer strictly for the money. It turned out to be a bad fit and I was miserable, especially since the previous employer had been good in every way except monetarily. They refused my request for a raise, so I jumped ship. Thankfully, another company I wanted to work for recruited me a year later and offered an even higher salary. Unfortunately, it was the catalyst for regret #1, six years later. Perhaps I should have just stayed with the first employer all along! Ah yes, hindsight is always 20/20.
Now it’s your turn.
What are some of your regrets? How did you handle them?
Looking forward to your replies!
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