Welcome to the Write Tribe Blog Carnival, 2nd edition.
[If you missed the 1st edition, see it HERE.]
Over the course of a lifetime, we meet scores of people, but how many actually become friends and stay with us for the duration. True, deep-rooted friendship is a rare commodity in this transient age, but thanks to the internet, even those who have moved far away can still maintain contact, if they so choose. (How many times have you said or heard “Let’s keep in touch”, but nothing comes of it?)
Not all friendship is positive. Take for example “fair weather” friends. These are the ones who happily partake of your hospitality, but otherwise only contact you when they want something. Don’t count on them when life gets tough. They will disappear so quickly, you’ll be choking on the dust! Back in the 1970s, we were one of the few married couples in our group and hosted many parties. Life was good and we had dozens of friends. Did we really though? Once the parties stopped in the 80s, those so-called friends dwindled to less than half. When serious financial difficulties hit in the 90s, only the aforementioned deep-rooted friends remained.
Sometimes, we meet new people with whom we share instant rapport. This can be similar to an affair based on lust instead of love and be over just as quickly. About 20 years ago, hubby and I met another couple and hit it off immediately. We exchanged phone numbers and invited them over for a barbecue the following weekend. It was a memorable evening. Promises to arrange future get-togethers followed, but nothing happened. Our messages were left unanswered and we never saw those people again. Were they just looking for a free meal? Odd, wouldn’t you say? This often happens with internet friendships too. I used to belong to an online forum and had frequent email correspondence with several regulars. Once the forum closed, they disappeared and ignored any attempts to stay in touch. Am I the only one who finds this strange?
Have you ever experienced toxic friendships? These are incredibly stressful, exhausting and unrewarding. My best advice is to cut these people out of your life. As the old saying goes “With friends like these, who needs enemies?” I had one such friend, about 10 years ago. She was a highly neurotic, compulsive liar and to top it off, also a stalker! Several times, I spotted her car behind me in traffic for no apparent reason. Once, I purposely drove into a dead-end street to see what she would do. She panicked, backed out of there at full speed and never followed me again. Every conversation with her included a litany of the same complaints over and over, to the point where I could recite them by rote. Her idea of good-natured teasing was to mock and if I didn’t return a phone call within a couple of hours, she called again! Life is much too short to put up with these types of friends, don’t you think?